Am I a bad person?

Hello EdgeHead8806, my name is Rochell and I am 35 year old. I wont go into details but I just had twins girls. My case is totally different from yours because I wwas raped. I felt the same way you did when I found out I was pregnant. I said over and over I didnt want them at all. I felt i couldnt be a good mom to them, I hated myself for feeling that way.

Yes you are young and Its perfectly ok how you are feeling. Its yoour first child, dont beat yourself up for it, like I did and sometime still do. Don't let this consume you. I'm not a doctor/therapist/counselor or anything like that but ifyou are having these feeling you may need to talk to one. Don't let it get out of control. It has taken me to almost killing myself before I was made get the help I needed. I am not even close to healing but I'm on my way there.

Please take care of yourself, I would never be negitive toward you because I know where you are coming from. My heart goes out to you.

I will keep you in my Prayers
Rochell

You need to talk to a therepyst hun. Some people feel that way I never did BUT I am not judging you. I wouldn't do that. Later in the pregnancy you may change your mind when you feel the baby kick you will fall in love with it. Why did you have such resentment towards your brother and sister if you dont mind me asking. I will keep you in my prayers. Im here for ya ((((HUGS))))

I don't think you are a bad person at all. I'm your age, and 4 weeks pregnant. Honestly I don't feel anything towards the baby, just want it to be over. Don't bit yourself up, love my come. Or if it doesn't why should you feel bad, it's not like you don't want to love and be exited, you just can't.

I am 21 and 26 weeks pregnant and I still feel the same exact way. There are days where I am kinda excited for the baby, but that is mostly because I hate being pregnant and I just want the pregnancy to be over. I feel resentment towards my baby because I feel like it made my fiances and my relationship much more strained and I feel like everything is all about the baby, yes I know that sounds selfish which is why I hate myself for feeling that way.

when pregnancy was unplanned-i think its common to feel worried paniced even resent baby. LEts be real-an unplanned pregnancy is so stressful-u have financial worries, your life is going to majorly change, and your body is changing in so many ways-including your hormones being out of control. Anything not planned for is scary & it definately puts a huge stressor on a relationship--heck having a child puts a huge stress on a relationships. Im sure when your child is born-you will be in love & happy-but also terrified--but supposedly that is all normal. So please don;t; be so hard on yourself for not feeling happy a hundred percent and panicing--its normal. It might help to talk to a therapist about your feelings & maybe even try to lessen some of your worries by sitting down and planning. Relationships will be stressed by pregnancy/raising a child-but hopefully you all have strong enough relationships to make through hard times & enjoy raising a child together. Best of luck & please dont be too hard on yourselves

Hmm would it matte about the gender? Like would you be more jealous if it were a girl or a boy? Afraid that boyfriend would be attracted to the child or anything like that?